Welcome to The SHAPE of a Leader. I write this blog with the SHAPE leadership development program (for women pastors) I lead in mind, but it is for all who are interested in leadership, faith, and the intersection of the two.

Friday, January 28, 2011

The Tipping Point of Fear

According to one source, the phrase, "Do not be afraid" appears in the bible 106 times.  Yesterday, as I sat with 20+ amazing women pastors, we talked about fear.  We all have fears - fear of rejection, fear of failure, of abandonment, of ridicule, of not being good enough... 

Sometimes, fear can be a good thing. It keeps us safe; it increases our awareness of risk - as in "don't walk the streets of the city alone after dark."  In some cases, it can be a motivator, as in "I never want to experience that situation again." 

But where's the tipping point?  Where do our fears sabotage us - create obstacles - keep us stagnant - build walls - keep us from doing the hard thing? Being the kind of leader that makes the tough decisions or takes the hard steps, often causes us to have to lean in to our fear. Examine it.  Face it.  Push through it.  

What is the core fear that's always operating in the core of your being?  Me? Fear of rejection.  Recognize when your fear is the thing that's holding you back.  Lean into it - push through it - grow from it.

Joshua 1:9:  Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go."

1 comment:

  1. As a young pastor, someone "gave me" this quote from 2 Timothy 1.7: "... for God did not give us a spirit of cowardice, but rather a spirit of power and of love and of self-discipline."
    It blew me away. I felt the Scripture directed right at my solar plexis... God is not in the fear. More than that, God is in the power. I think at that time, I was afraid of power - thought it was a "dirty word"... and somehow this scripture put power together with love and self-control. I don't think it was the beginning of my leadership journey, but it was certainly a major marker along the way.