Welcome to The SHAPE of a Leader. I write this blog with the SHAPE leadership development program (for women pastors) I lead in mind, but it is for all who are interested in leadership, faith, and the intersection of the two.

Tuesday, June 12, 2012


I hate waiting. It feels so passive - a waste of time.  I like to make a decision, move on, get going.  This impatient behavior sounds like a Myers Briggs (MBTI) "J" - or in the StrengthsFinder world, one of the executing type strengths like Achiever, Arranger, Focus.  

And yet I know that as a leadership tool, waiting can be a very important skill to master.  Sometimes waiting for more information leads to a better decision. Sometimes, waiting for someone else to decide is a powerful empowerment tactic for someone you're leading or mentoring. Or maybe it's waiting for others to catch up - come in line with - your line of thinking. And, sometimes, waiting is an important faith-building experience.

My colleague and friend Barb learned that WAIT is also an acronym: Why Am I Talking?  Yes, waiting in silence can be VERY powerful.  Let others sit with a thought. If you let them "get a clue" on their own, they've learned a much more powerful lesson than you could have delivered through a lecture.

So next time you get the urge to get to it, make a decision, deliver a message or just get moving, ask yourself if pausing - waiting - even for just a bit, might be an important tool in this moment.

1 comment:

  1. "In returning and rest is your salvation. In quietness and trust will be your strength." A word for life I was given a couple years back comes to mind as I read your thoughts.